tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post9208250789225950463..comments2023-11-03T02:10:22.679-07:00Comments on ADVOCATE: Abused Military Wife Speaks OutAntonia Drew Vannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18138390421892682590noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-75329177552915134342016-11-15T13:51:10.982-08:002016-11-15T13:51:10.982-08:00I was a battered wife in 2000. The abuse happened...I was a battered wife in 2000. The abuse happened with me and my children who had just moved here from another country. I was successful in stealing the children and sending them back to my home country. The army did not cooperate with me. I then filed as a battered wife for my documents which took too long for my to get my work documents. By that time the army had discharged him and he tried to find me and blamed me so I had to leave the country hurriedly. Not leaving a forwarding address for our documents with INS. I had tried to revive our case from our home country and got no assistance from our local Embassy. He has since passed and because of not having a social security number, my children were denied any benefits in the US. I have tried to open the case where I will be entitled for benefits as his widow in a couple years. I feel violated all over with the way I was treated and the lack of benefits. I had to raise my children on my own. I recently moved back to the US and trying to find some answers. Anybody out there can help? any organization? The years of pain and trauma has never left. batteredwivestandingstronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13710109995818981438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-39653424729316146762015-09-12T17:49:59.887-07:002015-09-12T17:49:59.887-07:00I am also going thru the same thing here in hawaii...I am also going thru the same thing here in hawaii. My husband is army though. We didnt have food in the house for two days, my husband left my car but with an expired safety where he needs to take it to the dealership because it's in his name. He hit me in my eye and threw me to the floor. He was even arrested for domestic abuse and his chain of command hasnt said a thing about the incident. My husband can lie to you while looking you in the eye. I have gone to the news stations to.hopefully show how the military treat victims. Havent been able to.go to work nothing at allAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11231353061285321477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-30393704073519148792014-03-07T08:43:21.734-08:002014-03-07T08:43:21.734-08:00Dear Bozeman Outdoor Club, Thank you for your post...Dear Bozeman Outdoor Club, Thank you for your post. The "Reply" comes from a great source - Debby Tucker, the Executive Director of the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. Among other areas, Debby is an expert on domestic violence and the military, I cannot think of a better responder to your inquiry for the awful situation you are in as the father of a victim of domestic violence. Others should take your lead. Debby, thank you! Bozeman... The National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence is listed in "My Favorite Links" and I hope you will follow the help Debby has provided as it is sound. I believe more sources and strategies to assist you will come. Please keep us informed on what you need to help your daughter.Antonia Drew Vannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18138390421892682590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-48588120684884218792014-03-07T08:16:06.327-08:002014-03-07T08:16:06.327-08:00Dear Bozeman..., Please encourage your daughter to...Dear Bozeman..., Please encourage your daughter to connect with a victim advocate. If she contacts the Domestic Violence Action Center, http://www.stoptheviolence.org/ they can assist her! Please visit that website and see the services offered. They have always been helpful to military-related victims I've sent before. Too often the military's response seems cumbersome and non-responsive to the victim's needs even if there are good people who really do want to help, they follow a protocol that can feel as though they are not concerned, when they really are. But the civilian victim advocates have as their priority to assist the victim and often know well and work with the military advocates, investigators and so on and can help explain the process and advocate for the victim's needs while the investigation is underway. http://www.stoptheviolence.org/resources/other-important-numbers is a good page to visit too. Even if she has a place to stay and does not need shelter, she may benefit from the counseling and other services there. Back up to the local programs is always the state coalition....Hawai'i Coalition Against Domestic Violence, www.hscadv.org. Their website has some information too AND they know everyone on the island....and the other islands too! Good luck, Debby Debby Tuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13666458219326916096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-24803114497538675812014-03-07T00:49:07.521-08:002014-03-07T00:49:07.521-08:00My young daughter is married to a marine they are ...My young daughter is married to a marine they are based in Hawaii. She ended up in psych ward and realized she was being sexually and verbally abused by him. She has not seen her 7 month old child for 2 weeks now part of his control. Even though the psychiatrist said she was a good fit mother. She reported the abuse it is under investigation. I can't believe they still keep child in home. She is staying at girl friend who is in Navy because she is afraid of him. She has no money no car part of his control. I feel like military is just trying to sweep under rug. Any advice appreciated.Bozeman Outdoor Clubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02093878575168182914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-66731444568166205762014-01-29T07:26:46.236-08:002014-01-29T07:26:46.236-08:00FallenFlower, thank you for your response. I truly...FallenFlower, thank you for your response. I truly hope you have found support and are on the mend given all you have had to endure. Feel free to contact any of the resources I have posted. You are so correct that some victim's voices are silenced and perpetrators are protected through a conspiracy of silence. Do not give up on you. There are many advocates working to bring those silenced voices to the forefront. Antonia Drew Vannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18138390421892682590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-31285625109223317102014-01-09T12:56:04.173-08:002014-01-09T12:56:04.173-08:00I am the victim of abuse at the hands of a soldier...I am the victim of abuse at the hands of a soldier, and it was swept under the rug. Even my senators will not help me now. He has cost me jobs, got out of paying support, and has left me destitute with ruined credit and social isolation. His unit helped him cover it up! More people need to know that there is no help for some battered spouses. FallenFlowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11688160766011773719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-73835044336625612042013-12-18T11:26:56.839-08:002013-12-18T11:26:56.839-08:00Elizabeth, tell us about your story and what can w...Elizabeth, tell us about your story and what can we expect in the link?Antonia Drew Vannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18138390421892682590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-86198731540924609252013-12-16T23:43:34.935-08:002013-12-16T23:43:34.935-08:00Check out my story. I am just getting started but ...Check out my story. I am just getting started but would love for people to hear me.<br />http://truthmomof4.microblr.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13649034700754127919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2575613924319445623.post-72054140055568845562013-02-27T11:22:20.478-08:002013-02-27T11:22:20.478-08:00OMG!! This is so terrible!
OMG!! This is so terrible!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03395107817591960801noreply@blogger.com